the field guide · part III — love & its counterfeits
your type is not your type
the pattern in who you fall for is usually older than the people you fall for. attachment, and the wound doing the choosing.
the shelf
everything worth reading, hearing and watching on this — books, podcasts, articles, studies, and the videos. tap a format to filter.
- study
Attachment theory (Bowlby; Ainsworth)
anxious, avoidant and secure patterns learned early and re-run on the people you date.
- book
Attached · Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
the popular, readable map of attachment styles and how they pick partners.
- book
How to Not Die Alone · Logan Ury
a behavioural scientist on the invisible patterns steering who you choose.
- podcast
Where Should We Begin? · Esther Perel
you can hear the childhood wound doing the choosing in almost every episode.
- video
